Parents, Guardians and Caregivers


Are you looking for resources to be supportive of your child, teen, group home youth? Find resources for you and your family here. To view a complete list of resources, click here.

For useful books and local meetings, scroll down on this page.

Advocates for Informed Choice
(Formerly Institute for Intersex Children and the Law)

Asian and Pacific Islander Family Pride

COLAGE (Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere) (Bay Area)
People with a Gay Lesbian Bisexual or Transgender Parent

Billy DeFrank (San Jose)

Family Acceptance Project

Gender Spectrum (Oakland)
Gender Spectrum provides education, training and support to help create a gender sensitive and inclusive environment for all children and teens.

Intersex Initiative

Intersex Society of North America

Our Family Coalition
The Bay Area’s LGBTQ Family Organization

PFLAG (Parent’s and Friends of Lesbians and Gays)

PFLAG Transgender Network (TNET)

Project Safety Net (Palo Alto)
For youth to get through tough times or help a friend.

Somos Familia

The Youth Space in (SJ)
For lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, questioning and ally youth and young adults ages 13-25, living in Santa Clara County

Bay Area Transgender and Intersex Resources

NOTE: Many of the organizations above provide transgender/intersex friendly support/advocacy and education.

TransYouth Family Allies

Useful Books for Parents and Guardians

  • Parent Tip Sheets on Bullying by Common Sense
    Spanish 1 (pdf), Spanish 2 (pdf), English 1 (pdf), English 2 (pdf)
  • Cyberbullying Reading List
    Available for checkout in Santa Clara County Office of Education
  • Lesbian & Gay Youth: Care & Counseling by Donna Futterman & Caitlin Ryan
  • Now That You Know: A Parents’ Guide to Understanding Their Gay and Lesbian Children by Betty Fairchild & Nancy Hayward
  • Straight Parents, Gay Children: Keeping Families Together by Robert A. Bernstein,
  • Always My Child: A Parent’s Guide to Understanding Your Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered or Questioning Son or Daughter by Kevin Jennings
  • The Family Heart: A Memoir of When Our Son Came Out by Robb Forman Dew
  • Prayers for Bobby: A Mother’s Coming to Terms with the Suicide of Her Gay Son by Leroy Aarons
  • Loving Someone Gay by Don Clark

PFLAG Meetings Locally

Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbian and Gays – and Bisexuals and Trans and Queer and Questioning folks, too!

PFLAG San Jose / Peninsula
Phone Number: 408-270-8182

Redwood City PFLAG
Meets every 2nd Monday 7:30 p.m.
Sequoia Union High School District Offices
480 James Avenue, Redwood City

San Jose PFLAG
Meets every 2nd Wednesday 7:30 p.m.
First Congregational Church 1980 Hamilton Ave. (at Leigh) San Jose

PFLAG Fremont/East Bay
PO Box 754
Fremont, CA 94537-6816
Phone: (510) 226-6816
Call or email for info about meetings

PFLAG Danville / San Ramon Valley
Phone: (925) 833-1019
Meets the third Monday of every month from 7:00 – 9:00 PM at the Danville Congregational Church, 989 San Ramon Valley Blvd, Danville, CA